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2.5 Years Later: How Have I Progressed?

Time passes slowly for those who wait. For me it doesn’t.

This month marks my one year of service at the Linton University College. And also my 2.5 years in the higher education industry.

A year ago I took the courage to quit my job at the prestigious Universiti Tunku Abdul Rahman.

It was difficult having to bid adieu to a zone of comfort where fellow colleagues and students and I had developed very cordial relations, where I was given a big, cozy office room with an amazing lake scenery outside the windows, where flexible working hours that most people would kill to have – were observed.

But I knew I had to move on from my comfort zone. Which I did, and it was probably the greatest decision made in my entire life.

After serving in another institute for another year, as I reflect upon it today, there are actually few things I have picked up that I am thankful for. Among them here are five random ones:

1. I have had one of the biggest experience gains in the ISO 9002 quality management system and maybe soon mrdefinite.net will become the first blog ever on earth to be ISO-certified. JK.

2. I have come to identify and worked with the two general types of people in the world – the talkers and the doers. Talkers hardly do and doers hardly talk.

3. My right brain has gotten fitter each day and I have developed in myself a greater sense of creativity.

4. mrdefinite.com has hit a milestone in October this year but I am not allowed to disclose any details here. When the time is ripe I will.

5. My dream of owning my first home came true some three months after telling my parents about such an intent in February. Maybe the power of attraction works.

Alright, that’s all for the time being!

More personal entries coming in my favourite month of December! In fact on 31 December, this blog will officially turn 9 years old.


Incident of Woman Burnt Alive: BHP Kiosk Attendants’ Fault?

When I logged on to MSN Malaysia’s main page this morning, I saw the following headline to my horror: “Woman burned alive after kiosk workers refuse to lend fire extinguisher”.

While the news has saddened me a lot, at the same time I found the headline subjective and biased at its best.

This Shaza guy made it sound as if the woman would be 100% alive had the kiosk attendants lent their fire extinguisher.

He also made it sound as if it had not been caused by a serious collision involving the Myvi driven by the deceased, a Toyota Vios and a lorry.

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In other word, the journalist suggested the blame to be on the kiosk attendants, who did indeed refuse to let witness Teo have the fire extinguisher.

Since when has it become a journalist’s job to decide who to be blamed, rather than objectively reporting what really happened?

Yes, the fact that the kiosk attendants refused to lend the fire extinguisher may be linked to the woman’s death, but running the headline like that, as if the woman would have been saved had they lent the fire extinguisher, is nothing more than including personal judgement into the news report.

On the other hand, a lot of people have also expressed anger at the “selfish” kiosk attendants and suggested that the latter should be the ones burned alive. I must admit that when I first read the news on FB, I was super disturbed by the “selfish” act of those kiosk attendants too.

However after much thought, I had a change of mind as I was reminded of an incident some years ago where a foreign worker, claimed to have been cheated by a local company, was begging my friends and I for help.

He had no money or a place to stay, and needed help financially to go back to his home country, India.

As much as we sympathised him and would like to help, we were ultimately hold back by the fear that he could be a cheat. And we ended up giving him a little less money that the original amount we wanted to give, and asking him to go to seek police’s help instead.

Besides, I had also encountered a horrible incident with some “donation people” who rudely followed me from one end of a building to the other end trying to talk me into “donating” money for their the “needy”.

And now back to the incident of the dead woman. Teo the witness asked for help from attendants of a 24-hour BHP kiosk situated 500 meters away from the place of accident.

Imagine if you were one of the attendants, would you not be frightened when some stranger suddenly asked for a fire extinguisher and told you about an accident that you were not able to see?

The attendants could be low-paid staff making maybe only 30 bucks per day just to make ends meet. With robberies and cheating cases on the rise (cases where petrol stations are robbed, are not at all uncommon in the country), it is not surprising one would rather not risk borrowing something that doesn’t belong to him and having to be responsible for any loss.

Also, the following is an account of what happened posted by Teo the witness on Facebook after the incident:

then he still say he kenot open the door. Then he say his boss wont allowed to borrow. WTF!!!

then i started to amuk kicking the kiosk and punching the glass of the kiosk.

i even throw my IC to him say that if im dun return u report police.

When you read through the description, you get the idea that he was acting frantically when asking for help. I understand it’s just natural to act in a frantic and panicky manner in times of emergency, so there’s nothing wrong with that.

In fact I’m giving Teo props for braving himself and taking the trouble to go through the whole process – he definitely had every good intention and a big heart.

However we must also try seeing things from the kiosk attendants’ perspective. If you were the attendant, would you not be scared by someone acting so frantically, acting amok and kicking the kiosk?

There were definitely more reasons behind their unwillingness to borrow the fire extinguisher other than being “selfish”.

Instead of pointing fingers at BHP and the two attendants involved, I feel it’s only fair to first look into and understand the many problems and social ills plaguing our society at the moments, how our society is raised (e.g., kids being taught “not to simply trust strangers”), and how it evolves through the recent years where emphasis is constantly placed upon anything else but humanities.